Diamond Character: How To Find a Diamond To Suit Your Personality

One of my favorite books on diamonds is Rachel Bergstein's "Brilliance and Fire". In her book Bergstein covers the journey that diamonds have taken throughout history and she follows the intricate and intimate relationship that we as a society have had with this alluring stone. No author that I know of more aptly expresses the intense push-me-pull-me relationship that exists with this amazing little rock. Diamonds express a wealth of ideas in addition to ideas of wealth. For this reason in spite of the recent advent of lab made diamonds beginning to share the spotlight, diamonds remain the ultimate symbol of value and worth. In my time helping people find a diamond I have seen only limited interest in lab created diamonds.
Whether you choose a lab diamond or a natural diamond the shape of the diamond says a lot.

I wanted to write a post that allows a diamond seeker to identify which diamonds not only express the beauty we find in the light that diamonds return to us, but diamonds that express character as well.

Diamonds have changed from being primarily a gift given by a man to a woman when proposing marriage, to a joint purchase that expresses a solid commitment between two people. As the times change, we see the old fashioned ways disappear. More and more couples are shopping for diamonds together and discuss the best options to choose. And while guys certainly have tried and i am sure will continue to try and guess what diamond their girl will love it's no secret that bargain hunting instincts are never far below the surface. Fear of overpaying for a diamond is the main way this expresses itself and this concern can lead to the neglect of other vital aspects of what it means to own a diamond. There are plenty of diamond dealers who also fall prey to this mentality. They  only concern themselves with satisfying this very elementary desire, of getting the best bang per buck, and they completely overlook that the perfect diamond is so much more than finding the biggest stone at the best price.


The Character of a Diamond


Every diamond has its own character. Matching this up to a person's character  is more art than science. To assume that someone wants a diamond of a certain shape, color or clarity without thinking about the character that the diamond imparts is to neglect a central aspect of adornments. The inherent personality that a diamond reflects is all the more important if it is the only stone one is to own and wear. Without understanding what a diamond says the diamond chosen is likely going to be more of a reflection and the personality of the diamond chooser rather than a reflection of the intended recipient.

Price or Personality?


From my experience it seems that a large percentage of men do focus on price more than on any other aspect. We tend to look for the biggest and "sparkliest" diamond for the lowest price. And there's nothing inherently wrong with this. We all want a good deal. We want our money to not be wasted. And we want our money to stretch as far as possible. Budget constraints will always limit the range of diamonds that can be considered for purchase. Always. There is no person alive that will not be limited by a budget. Even the richest individual in the world is unlikely to ever have enough available cash to buy the Kohinoor, a diamond that is so valuable that it is un-insurable.

Determining Personality


The task of matching the right diamond to the right person may seem pretty daunting at first glance. It requires not only for you to know the recipient well, but to understand what every aspect of a diamond's qualities communicate.
So let me break it down into simple steps.
First we determine what the subject's personality is like. I recommend trying out  the 16 Personalities online test. It will take, at the most, 10-12 minutes if you take your time and think about every question. This of course has to be completed for one's self as the questions are all very personal.

The result will fall under one of the following four main categories:

  1. Analysts
  2. Diplomats
  3. Sentinels
  4. Explorers
According to Myers and Briggs, each personality type has four basic preferences: Introversion (I) or Extraversion (E), Sensing (S) or Intuition (N), Thinking (T) or Feeling (F), and Judging (J) or Perceiving (P). In The 16 Personality Types: Profiles, Theory, & Type Development Dr. A.J. Drenth uses these initials to create acronyms for each of these personality types.

However rather than using acronyms I find it much easier to work with the categories used by 16Personalities.com.
These are the four categories with the additional 4 subcategories under each main heading as determined by the Myers-Briggs test:

    Analysts

   These people are Intuitive (N) and Thinking (T) personality types, known for their rationality, impartiality, and intellectual excellence. There are a further 4 subcategories which are:

  1. Architect
  2. Logician
  3. Commander
  4. Debater

 Diplomats

   Diplomats are Intuitive (N) and Feeling (F) personality types, known for their empathy, diplomatic skills, and passionate idealism. These are the subcategories under the Diplomats heading:
  1. Advocate
  2. Mediator
  3. Protagonist
  4. Campaigner

   Sentinels

    These are Observant (S) and Judging (J) personality types, known for their practicality and focus on order, security, and stability. They can be any of the following:
  1. Logistician
  2. Defender
  3. Executive
  4. Consul

    Explorers

   Explorers are Observant (S) and Prospecting (P) personality types, known for their spontaneity, ingenuity, and ability to live in the moment. Further to that they can be categorized as either:
  1. Virtuoso
  2. Adventurer
  3. Entrepreneur
  4. Entertainer

From there you can determine which diamond suits which personality.

Diamond Character


I have read through a few reports of which type of diamonds are usually preferred by certain types of characters, but there is still some subjectivity. I will however give it my best shot and match up each personality with a diamond shape.

  1. Architect: Round brilliant, princess cut, emerald cut
  2. Logician: Asscher, round brilliant, emerald cut
  3. Commander: Emerald cut, pear cut, round brilliant, princess cut
  4. Debater: Round brilliant, princess cut, marquise cut, emerald cut
  5. Advocate: Cushion cut, round brilliant, Oval cut
  6. Mediator: Oval cut, round brilliant, cushion cut, pear cut
  7. Protagonist: Pear cut, marquise cut, round brilliant, emerald cut
  8. Campaigner: Oval cut, round brilliant, Asscher cut
  9. Logistician: Emerald cut, princess cut, round brilliant
  10. Defender: Round brilliant, marquise cut, princess cut
  11. Executive: Emerald cut, round brilliant, princess cut, asscher cut
  12. Consul: Pear cut, round brilliant, Asscher cut, princess cut
  13. Virtuoso: Round brilliant, princess cut, cushion cut
  14. Adventurer: Round brilliant, emerald cut, oval cut
  15. Entrepreneur: Marquise cut, emerald cut, round brilliant, oval cut
  16. Entertainer: Round brilliant, princess cut, marquise cut, oval cut 



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